Steps to survive a Break up

Posted: December 26, 2011 in Breakup

These steps can be done by both men and woman most of the steps are solo in nature. Take them serious, they’ll help you in the end.

Step One: release your emotion. The most efficient way is to cry. Most men may not want to do this. Crying is liberating it provides you a place to release built up frustration and emotion.

Step Two: After your good cry it is time to start the hard work. The first thing you need to do is take an UNBIASED (very important word) view of the entire relationship. Understand the demise of your relationship wasn’t an event that happened to you. You were a participant in it. Your role may have been very minor but you had a role. So be honest and frank. This may take a week or two. Take notes as things come up. The one thing you have to do is be objective and not pass the blame.

Step Three: Take responsibility for your actions that lead to the end. Own up to it for no one but yourself. You need to learn here so you won’t repeat the same mistakes, that’s why you’re taking responsibility.

Step Four: At this point you’re done a lot of the hard work emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. So now apologize to yourself for what happened and letting it happen.

Step Five: Take a much needed break, treat yourself to a new outfit, a new pair of shoes, a favorite meal, a video game. Just something nice to remind yourself of who the important person is and who matters.

Step Six: Surround yourself with good people. Ones who will praise you, give you love, and strength. Don’t let these people bash your ex. Let them hug you with words.

Step Seven: Find your anthem for resurgence a song that represents your new mood, mind, and view on life.

Step Eight: On your last step of getting over remind yourself how fantastic you are, the parts that were broken are now back in place.

There you have it, the process to heal from a break up,. These are not set in stone. This is more of guide to help you properly get through with out the drama attached to them. I wish you good luck

PS. Having favorite people or food on hand doesn’t hurt.

  1. Veronique says:

    I’m glad that the eight step didn’t listed when you should start dating. I dated a year after I went thru my soul shattering break up. I think that a lot of people date to soon after a break up. I know a lot of women (Im gulity of it) go out with guys so they can feel better. The mistake is looking to the next guy for affection and attention thinking it will bring your confidence and happiness back.
    IT DOESN’T WORK. LOL It might feel like its working looking for a man to give you something that should come from with in, but as soon as its over or he drops you …’ll snow ball right back to being depress and feeling hopeless.

    • Advisor says:

      Hey I’m glad you enjoyed my post. Yes I wanted to leave dating off because that may take even more time to come to a point when a person can do that. I hope during your process of healing some of these steps were ones you followed and helped you get to a better place in life. The one thing I maintain is another person will never deliver that confidence to you, it is something that has to be built up, worked on, nurtured, and then released all through the system. Avoid the snowball.

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