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Open Marriage

Posted: September 12, 2017 in cheater, Communication, Married, Uncategorized

This is going to be one of those quick and dirty posts. I haven’t thought it al the way out but i wanted to share. I have reaized many people are either in open marriages by force or in them unknowingly. In this day and age it seems like everyone is falling behind one narrative or another the popular one is “one person can’t be everything to another.” Lets examine that for a second because there is merit there at the same time if your husband/wife can’t be your best friend does that mean your best friend needs to be your lover as well? Since when does having more people in your sphere of friends translate to alternate and additional relationships? There has always been a group of people who participated in this life, usually those of more wealth or in closed communities. Now it is so popular  like tattoos, those who are not in one are in the minority.

So lets look at those who are “bullied” into it for a second. Your partner is out there engaging in situations with other people, eventually you find out and confront them. THis is new information to you so you’re shocked, emotionally spent, and looking to figure out how to move and they take that moment to tell you either accept it because they are not stopping. Right then  and there you have lost a level of security in your relationship, your own pride that you were doing everything right, and now he possibility of losing whats left so of course you are going to accept it. You spend months mourning what you thought was the relationships you were in, and your partner is living it up. They agree you could do the same thing they are doing but you have been out the game for how ever many years, you don;t have a backup book or anything so you are starting from scratch and don;t even know how to move in that arena. Somewhere deep down you are hoping if you make this choice you may get them back like they were and this is about making them happy and as a dutiful partner thats where your mind is. This is where it is most common in this climate we are in, as a couple a partnership this is a conversation that happens before anyone does anything. The decisions affects the entire family and should be treated as such not left to one to decide.

We life in a selfish get with it, I don’t like consequences place and it sucks.


Be Black

Posted: July 10, 2016 in Uncategorized
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Its hard to be human when human not respected
hunger and fear is projected.
my dear, dearly departed
this americas most been started.
I wish we would end it
upend it
split it
But still it is, steel as a rod
our resolve
Always the high road
pulled over on the curb
we spend hours trying to learn
how to make the tide turn
Before in our back the bullets burn
like salted tears over fresh flesh wounds
We rose to quick to die so soon
400 years is not that long ago
But maybe we still stuck in our 4 score
Where being property made us worth so much more
not sure, hands up, feet flat on the floor, chin up chest out
Be proud of your power, because in your power i have no doubt.

I have been reading a lot again about men getting charged with sexual offences. I think sexual abuse or assault are right at all. Here is the thing in most states the legal age of consent is 16 years old. Why does a man have to pay with years off his life for a crime that he didn’t know he committed?

Here is an example:

Tom is in a club for 18 and over because they check ID at the door and serve drinks, while there he meets Tina. Right now Tom automatically believes Tina is above age because they checked IDs at the door or it was their job to do that. He gets Tina’s number and they go out on a few dates s she is out and available at the same time he is, she mentioned she went to Dunkin College. They have sex upon dropping her off that night he finds out from hr parents shes in high school and they will be pressing charges. Where in here is he at fault? Society makes it seem like a sin to ask age.

If you want the clear facts here they are again

  1. Met in an 18 & over club
  2. She order drinks
  3. She was available during the same hours as him
  4. She told him  she went to a college
  5. She looks  like the age she said she was

To me Tom is not  sexual predator he didn’t sit outside a high school or train station near a school trying to get girl he new was in high school.

In my opinion a sexual predator is someone lurking in the bushes watc hing a kid, or following them in a van, someone who knows this kid is a kid or a teen and doesn’t care.


Logically what else could Tom do? Could he have asked for an ID? Probably but why should he it is proper to assume a place that checks IDs would have checked hers and not let her in if she was below age. IF she lied to him then what else could he do? What markers are in place to help self guard the men in situations like this? Especially if she wasn’t preyed  upon?

There are so many men in jail with their records blemished because f situations like this, and thats sad. What society fails to realize is that all it takes is an accusation, true or not of rape or sexual assault and a mans reputation, job, family, and everyone turns on him. The reaction is so immediate no one even considers innocent or guilt so now he pays before hes guilty and if he is he pays 2x. No one ever offers an apology or makes a point to fix his name in public it is dropped. The act as if there are no such thing as teenage predators ever heard of a movie called the Crush with Alicia Silverstone? or The Long Island Lolita? In most cases the men are believed to be the aggressor until you catch the woman red handed, blood, knife, video taped, holding a sign with her name and her crimes, How can we be a nation of equal opportunity and 2nd chances when we have situations like this that effectively end a mans life?


Posted: September 16, 2015 in Uncategorized

Alot of the time you have to take a moment to come outside of yourself and just grow, be bigger and  clear the negative energy, So do it.

Thoughts on Marriage

Posted: October 18, 2014 in Uncategorized
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These are 9 of the most overlooked reasons why a marriage fails

credit to the Huffington post here

Many drafts

Posted: July 14, 2014 in Uncategorized

Ihad not wanted to disappear like this really i didn’t. So many drafts so little time. Bare with me people I swear I’ll be back with some goodies, I have many ideas stories and tales I wish to share.


Posted: March 1, 2014 in Uncategorized

Please be inspired, greatness doesn’t happen by accident.