Simp???????

Posted: June 2, 2016 in Love, Relationship
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I am confused on a topic and I want all you people to help me out about what it is that woman want? So for those that don;t know what the word means, simp – a silly or foolish person.

I have seen women call men that for going the distance for love or for someone they care about, while at the same time complaining that men don’t do that at all. I don’t understand… I doubt I ever will. I look on the instagrams and twitters of the world and see women complain about how bad men are, don’t take care of their kids, etc etc.. So he is a simp and thirst for trying and a quitter or a villain for not trying? SMH this generation my god

 I want to start his post to say I LOVE WOMAN I mean I really love everything about woman, their strength, wisdom, nurturing nature, power, etc. Alot of time us guys don;t appreciate or show our appreciation as much as we should I will stand with that.

Now with that out the way some of the logic, decisions, and justification for them  leaves a lot to be desired. In fact some of the movements are terroristic in nature. Here is the definition of  it A terroristic threat is when a person threatens to commit any crime of violence against another person with the intent to terrorize. Because this is a speech based crime, it can often be difficult to determine if a person’s actions constitute a criminal offense. Now I don’t believe the intent is to be that way, I believe ladies are sharing their feelings abut situations and  it gets continuous and out of hand.  I came to this point when  was having a couple of conversations earlier and I listened to two woman justify emasculating men and then cheating on him and getting mad when he either forced them to stand tall in the mess in one case of cheated himself in the other case.

Let me tell you a secret maybe no other men will mention but ladies run the world!!! Once a man lets you into his heart you can pretty much convince him to do anything. Thats love!!

Men give women their emotional engine and expect them to protect it as fiercely as they do their own. Telling him he isn’t man enough, your ex did etc better, he could be better if… IS EMASCULATING!! You think not? Well answer me this how is telling him what he isn’t, what you ex is and ho he would have done it helping the situation? Now imagine back when you were a little lady and the cute boy you were making dough eyes at picked you friend with more chest, butt, and personality. How would you feel? OR if now in your relationship he responding to something you did or try to do with m ex would have gotten it right, or she did it better, etc. Get my point?

So back to the convo these ladies recognized they emasculated their men, then blamed him for being emasculated and decided it was better to go “feel good” for two hours and come back ready to deal with what she did then just deal with it. Thats insane to me… They had 100 reasons why it made sense. If a man presented that same case he would be a savage and wouldn’t know how to treat woman. Oh he would be an animal. Not them, not the woman she had a right to feel good. To me that feels like a reward for being an ASS and disrespectful of yourself and your relationship. It also appears to me she quit, she tears him down then quits and she seems a future bu muddied his present as well as hers and doesn’t ant to face it. I could be wrong and I could be missing something or not seeing something and if I am I stand it fully. But from their conversation I would think they want a strong man and a man who will and can do whatever for them but maybe they had been hurt. One lady said she wanted to share how she felt t him but couldn’t. HELLO there are ways to share a concern without being hurtful or example;

Money convo

her: babe, i am concerned we aren’t bringing in enough money to get to our financial goals. I know I said I would contribute half but i really feel like you should be giving more because reason 1, reason 2, reason 3. Do you think its possible?

Sex Convo

Her: Hey babe I need t have a conversation with you, Im embarrassed and its pretty difficult for me to have.  I am not being full filled as much as I would like in the bedroom and this is what i think is happening. Are you open and willing to try a few things? What can we come up with together to help? Do u have any ideas?

Other female convo

Her: Hey babe I see all these woman coming on to you and leaving messages under your pictures some of them are pretty graphic and I find it disrespectful to us and our relationship…….You get the idea

Now many women will say they have tried, but what about your tone? Here is where these ladies got crazy thinking i was asking them to be a punk.. When in reality I as asking them to be strong enough to control and constrain themselves. I have never liked being yelled at, i typically tuned most people out when they start to yell. I just felt I was a rational enough human being that I didn’t need to be yelled at by another person. Talk to me civilized or I will tune you out. My mother didn’t yell at me I am not going to have another grown person yell at me. Yelling makes people feel instantly at defense and like they are being attacked no talked with or to and in a relationship thats whats needed.

Consider these and they may help your relationship.

I have been reading a lot again about men getting charged with sexual offences. I think sexual abuse or assault are right at all. Here is the thing in most states the legal age of consent is 16 years old. Why does a man have to pay with years off his life for a crime that he didn’t know he committed?

Here is an example:

Tom is in a club for 18 and over because they check ID at the door and serve drinks, while there he meets Tina. Right now Tom automatically believes Tina is above age because they checked IDs at the door or it was their job to do that. He gets Tina’s number and they go out on a few dates s she is out and available at the same time he is, she mentioned she went to Dunkin College. They have sex upon dropping her off that night he finds out from hr parents shes in high school and they will be pressing charges. Where in here is he at fault? Society makes it seem like a sin to ask age.

If you want the clear facts here they are again

  1. Met in an 18 & over club
  2. She order drinks
  3. She was available during the same hours as him
  4. She told him  she went to a college
  5. She looks  like the age she said she was

To me Tom is not  sexual predator he didn’t sit outside a high school or train station near a school trying to get girl he new was in high school.

In my opinion a sexual predator is someone lurking in the bushes watc hing a kid, or following them in a van, someone who knows this kid is a kid or a teen and doesn’t care.

 

Logically what else could Tom do? Could he have asked for an ID? Probably but why should he it is proper to assume a place that checks IDs would have checked hers and not let her in if she was below age. IF she lied to him then what else could he do? What markers are in place to help self guard the men in situations like this? Especially if she wasn’t preyed  upon?

There are so many men in jail with their records blemished because f situations like this, and thats sad. What society fails to realize is that all it takes is an accusation, true or not of rape or sexual assault and a mans reputation, job, family, and everyone turns on him. The reaction is so immediate no one even considers innocent or guilt so now he pays before hes guilty and if he is he pays 2x. No one ever offers an apology or makes a point to fix his name in public it is dropped. The act as if there are no such thing as teenage predators ever heard of a movie called the Crush with Alicia Silverstone? or The Long Island Lolita? In most cases the men are believed to be the aggressor until you catch the woman red handed, blood, knife, video taped, holding a sign with her name and her crimes, How can we be a nation of equal opportunity and 2nd chances when we have situations like this that effectively end a mans life?

Real Men x Wrestling x The Truth

Posted: January 30, 2016 in Life
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“WRESTLING IS FAKE” I still see this all the time and think to myself…”The amount of energy he is putting behind telling us that is like telling a fat id he’s fat” Pretty much all of us know wrestling is fake but we still enjoy it so let us have that. We live in a society where someone else’s pleasure that has nothing to do with you is your business because they are experiencing something you are not. For most of us in our 30s we now wrestling is fake but we enjoy a good story, we always have, but back in the day these were the “mens men” these were the guys who were good vs evil and not cartoons real guys. For me I learned a lot of how to be a man because my dad was around bu he wasn’t around. I don’t recall many moments with my dad pre my 10th year, I now I had some but the one consistent thing i could tell you is none of those moments were with him sober, I sought to be influenced. Then I saw the video and understood or got an idea that perfect and perfection weren’t just words but a way of life.

Simple and scripted with bad acting, but if you have nothing else but this and gangster movies………. come on man.

Myself and my people wanted to learn how to be men, with no daddies and half time dads and these people taught us.

At times I swear I am my own worst enemy as I have a tendency to ask too many dam questions.. I ask them because I want to know and I seek information. One of the questions is about the recent murder of a young lady of 29 years mother of 2 and the person alleged to kill her a 41 yr old man. Check it out here

I will speak their names her name is Janese Talton-Jackson, 29, of Penn Hills nd his name is Charles McKinney, 41, of Penn Hills. It is alleged that he killed her after she turned him down in a  bar a bit before. If that happened that way it is just sad a woman reserves the right to say no to man and his advances.

 

Here is where i get in trouble same trouble when I ask passionate people about rape, Ray Rice, Bill Cosby, and Charlie Sheen.

1.) What was a mother of 2 doing out in a bar at 1:30am? Isn’t that something you leave in the past once you have kids? (there is nothing wrong with going out and hanging out but you have kids to tend to or recover from.)

2.) How did she turn him down? did she just say “hey no thank you…” or did she seek to embarrass him or did she throw a drink in his face, put hands on him, lead him on or assault him? ( mind you I am saying any of these movements give him the right to kill her at all, just trying to understand what happened and how)

If I was a police officer and investigating I would ask these two questions, asking these questions from the passionate perspective is victim blaming and I am not victim blaming, I am merely trying to see the sate of mind of people and what was going on. If a woman tossed a drink on a man or put her hands on a man without him putting his hands on here that is assault in its truest form. Alot of the time it isn’t charged because we as a society always feel that its a mans fault period.

Training Wheels

Posted: January 14, 2016 in Life
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Training wheels are so important in life, career, and in most aspects. as a kid if you can remember most of us had training wheels on our bikes, they came that way at least on our first big boy/girl bike. Can you image the carnage that would have existed if we went from tricycle to two-wheel bike without the training wheels? Yeah I know the bruises, scrapes, and pain that you can image, well life is like that as well internships are lie the training wheels where you can afford to fall and be taught and supported. don;t be so quick to just ut there on your own because there maybe some thing you don’t see because you’re eyes aren’t trained to see them.

This posts I will admit was inspired by the social media craze of the wee the #wastinghistime2k16. There was so much laughter and it was so much of a game until the #wastinghertime2k16 one peeked out. When I talked to a few friends they told me it came from the idea that men could  do hat they wanted to do and leave a female high and dry and lead on. I understand but the problem is this society is so social media driven that this little game of hashtags will have them simple chicks thinking you can do this.

Let me start off by saying cheating is wrong, leading someone on is wrong, and being less than authentic and 100% in is wrong. This social media society has everyone feeling like they need to be wanted and need t be a celebrity and lauded by everyone. So this blog is about the people who don’t have that need the pretty regular guys. No guy just wakes up and checks out and cheats on his wife. From many of my friends and in conversation they tel me that the reason they considered cheating or did it started with communication and he lack of it. Communication was so important to those men, they felt like they were not being heard, understood or considered. They needed someone to talk to, to be emotional with, and to express their worries and their wives were not interested and often told them to suck it up. So after a while they all sough out just conversation and communication somewhere else and thats it. Through the ease of talking and lack of being able to talk to their partner a bond grew, then attraction started as they now sough to escape from where they were and then it happened.

 

All of them said they were wrong and felt bad but felt good at the time. They told me all they were seeking was to be heard and understood maybe a small stroke to the ego. Now some who are reading this may think I am blaming and I am not I am sharing their experience. The wives expressed they were angry because of something else not done and it caused them to be closed off and not care about his emotions. So both people end up being at fault he did something to start the process and she didn’t communicate how bad it hurt. It started in one area communication. So don;t waste anyones time, go be happy the first time out.