Posts Tagged ‘love’

Simp???????

Posted: June 2, 2016 in Love, Relationship
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I am confused on a topic and I want all you people to help me out about what it is that woman want? So for those that don;t know what the word means, simp – a silly or foolish person.

I have seen women call men that for going the distance for love or for someone they care about, while at the same time complaining that men don’t do that at all. I don’t understand… I doubt I ever will. I look on the instagrams and twitters of the world and see women complain about how bad men are, don’t take care of their kids, etc etc.. So he is a simp and thirst for trying and a quitter or a villain for not trying? SMH this generation my god

 I want to start his post to say I LOVE WOMAN I mean I really love everything about woman, their strength, wisdom, nurturing nature, power, etc. Alot of time us guys don;t appreciate or show our appreciation as much as we should I will stand with that.

Now with that out the way some of the logic, decisions, and justification for them  leaves a lot to be desired. In fact some of the movements are terroristic in nature. Here is the definition of  it A terroristic threat is when a person threatens to commit any crime of violence against another person with the intent to terrorize. Because this is a speech based crime, it can often be difficult to determine if a person’s actions constitute a criminal offense. Now I don’t believe the intent is to be that way, I believe ladies are sharing their feelings abut situations and  it gets continuous and out of hand.  I came to this point when  was having a couple of conversations earlier and I listened to two woman justify emasculating men and then cheating on him and getting mad when he either forced them to stand tall in the mess in one case of cheated himself in the other case.

Let me tell you a secret maybe no other men will mention but ladies run the world!!! Once a man lets you into his heart you can pretty much convince him to do anything. Thats love!!

Men give women their emotional engine and expect them to protect it as fiercely as they do their own. Telling him he isn’t man enough, your ex did etc better, he could be better if… IS EMASCULATING!! You think not? Well answer me this how is telling him what he isn’t, what you ex is and ho he would have done it helping the situation? Now imagine back when you were a little lady and the cute boy you were making dough eyes at picked you friend with more chest, butt, and personality. How would you feel? OR if now in your relationship he responding to something you did or try to do with m ex would have gotten it right, or she did it better, etc. Get my point?

So back to the convo these ladies recognized they emasculated their men, then blamed him for being emasculated and decided it was better to go “feel good” for two hours and come back ready to deal with what she did then just deal with it. Thats insane to me… They had 100 reasons why it made sense. If a man presented that same case he would be a savage and wouldn’t know how to treat woman. Oh he would be an animal. Not them, not the woman she had a right to feel good. To me that feels like a reward for being an ASS and disrespectful of yourself and your relationship. It also appears to me she quit, she tears him down then quits and she seems a future bu muddied his present as well as hers and doesn’t ant to face it. I could be wrong and I could be missing something or not seeing something and if I am I stand it fully. But from their conversation I would think they want a strong man and a man who will and can do whatever for them but maybe they had been hurt. One lady said she wanted to share how she felt t him but couldn’t. HELLO there are ways to share a concern without being hurtful or example;

Money convo

her: babe, i am concerned we aren’t bringing in enough money to get to our financial goals. I know I said I would contribute half but i really feel like you should be giving more because reason 1, reason 2, reason 3. Do you think its possible?

Sex Convo

Her: Hey babe I need t have a conversation with you, Im embarrassed and its pretty difficult for me to have.  I am not being full filled as much as I would like in the bedroom and this is what i think is happening. Are you open and willing to try a few things? What can we come up with together to help? Do u have any ideas?

Other female convo

Her: Hey babe I see all these woman coming on to you and leaving messages under your pictures some of them are pretty graphic and I find it disrespectful to us and our relationship…….You get the idea

Now many women will say they have tried, but what about your tone? Here is where these ladies got crazy thinking i was asking them to be a punk.. When in reality I as asking them to be strong enough to control and constrain themselves. I have never liked being yelled at, i typically tuned most people out when they start to yell. I just felt I was a rational enough human being that I didn’t need to be yelled at by another person. Talk to me civilized or I will tune you out. My mother didn’t yell at me I am not going to have another grown person yell at me. Yelling makes people feel instantly at defense and like they are being attacked no talked with or to and in a relationship thats whats needed.

Consider these and they may help your relationship.

At times I swear I am my own worst enemy as I have a tendency to ask too many dam questions.. I ask them because I want to know and I seek information. One of the questions is about the recent murder of a young lady of 29 years mother of 2 and the person alleged to kill her a 41 yr old man. Check it out here

I will speak their names her name is Janese Talton-Jackson, 29, of Penn Hills nd his name is Charles McKinney, 41, of Penn Hills. It is alleged that he killed her after she turned him down in a  bar a bit before. If that happened that way it is just sad a woman reserves the right to say no to man and his advances.

 

Here is where i get in trouble same trouble when I ask passionate people about rape, Ray Rice, Bill Cosby, and Charlie Sheen.

1.) What was a mother of 2 doing out in a bar at 1:30am? Isn’t that something you leave in the past once you have kids? (there is nothing wrong with going out and hanging out but you have kids to tend to or recover from.)

2.) How did she turn him down? did she just say “hey no thank you…” or did she seek to embarrass him or did she throw a drink in his face, put hands on him, lead him on or assault him? ( mind you I am saying any of these movements give him the right to kill her at all, just trying to understand what happened and how)

If I was a police officer and investigating I would ask these two questions, asking these questions from the passionate perspective is victim blaming and I am not victim blaming, I am merely trying to see the sate of mind of people and what was going on. If a woman tossed a drink on a man or put her hands on a man without him putting his hands on here that is assault in its truest form. Alot of the time it isn’t charged because we as a society always feel that its a mans fault period.

Training Wheels

Posted: January 14, 2016 in Life
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Training wheels are so important in life, career, and in most aspects. as a kid if you can remember most of us had training wheels on our bikes, they came that way at least on our first big boy/girl bike. Can you image the carnage that would have existed if we went from tricycle to two-wheel bike without the training wheels? Yeah I know the bruises, scrapes, and pain that you can image, well life is like that as well internships are lie the training wheels where you can afford to fall and be taught and supported. don;t be so quick to just ut there on your own because there maybe some thing you don’t see because you’re eyes aren’t trained to see them.

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I hope you took a moment to read that because it is what inspired my post. This post was made on a friend of a friends facebook page. It got me thinking after I read it. I thought back to every girl in my 20’s who dissed me and treat me like crap because I was raised a decent young man by my mother. I recently had a conversation with a young lady who told me all a woman needs is to feel loved, secure, and protected. I know some of those have break down and sub categories and all that I am well aware.

After reading the above post, I was confronted with reflecting on my past and looking at some on tv. There was a tv show I was watching where the man was providing all of those things and the woman still cheated… her reason she felt “lonely”. Now that reason in her mind was supposed to make it okay, she explained it that he was working a bunch of hours and she was lonely…. Now let me get this straight s I can understand. The man was supposed to protect you and make you feel secure and spend all day everyday with you? So how do you eat? how do you live in the nice house? How do you drive the nice car? A woman will say she doesn’t need it, yet point out al the people wh have one and how nice it is and would be to have….

 

Now lets flip this on its side and look at it from the other side if this was a man and he did it, there would be panty protesters in the street dam near rioting because  he doesn’t respect her and who she is in his life etc. IT IS NOT OKAY TO BE TREATED LIKE CRAP AND CHEATED ON. No matter man or woman it is selfish Why aren’t there as many groups keeping it real. She really wants to have her cake and eat it too and she will sleep with a dude in her husband’s bed and let him sleep in the sweaty sheets.

 

I feel there is a disproportionate need of what is required for each sex to bring to a relationship. A man has  to make a woman smile, laugh, feel secure, etc and all she has to do is show up and look pretty. He has to maintain everything he does for real fear of being replaced and she can coast and if he complains its sexist and he doesn’t understand.

I was listening to a podcast earlier in the week where woman bragged bout getting over on a guy and how hard she fought to be right, she didn’t even want to concede once she got caught doing the selfish act. She wanted to fight to be right and as a man we can’t call them on it. This double standards……..

Open

Posted: April 25, 2015 in Real Ish, Relationship
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I am one of those people who curious about things and wonder and ask questions. The topic of open relationships popped up with a few friends the other day and they explained all the goods of the matter and how it can help which is all fine and dandy, the things is i proposed a different school of thought from all I had read. One of the first things I noticed was the person who usually introduced the idea of an open relationship in a relationship is the person who has been still out there like they are single, getting numbers flirting having conversations etc, so they have a team already in place. The other person has usually destroyed the black book, let go of opposite sex friends out of respect or the new relationship. Take a moment and look at that information one person now has a backlog of potentials and the other person is blind sided and has nothing on deck. The partner who has nothing on deck usually doesn’t want to do and will only participate in an open relationship for the other partners happiness. There was one story where a married couple tried it for a year with the woman introducing it and in the first few nights she had already racked up a few bodies at the end of the year they were divorced, he later reveals he spent most of the year in their bed crying alone nightly because guess what there is no real way to maintain a real home life and an open one and still want to have sex with your partner and give them the love and compassion because with new people there is new maintenance, split energy, split time and more. In my opinion if you have time and energy to go be open and out there why not take the same time and energy and fix your relationship so you are not looking outside of it.
The idea had been brought to me that one person can’t be all things to another one person and i agree but that’s why we have friends who we spend time with, talk to, hang out with, etc not screw, not go out and hang out, sleep with, and act like its your partner especially when you have a partner at home. There are some rare instances where it seems to have worked but what happened in those instances is that the outside person came in and they all were a couple three people in one situation and it was an experience they had together. The things I think people forget is that at the end of the day you end up being someone elses second option when you have someone at home who you are their first and only option.
Going back to the other point what do you think will happen when your partner is sitting at home with no dates, a dry phone and you are never there, or if you’re sitting there sending flirty texts laughing back and forth during your time with them, or you’re sending nudes, or just doing things with this new person you never done with them? Do you really believe your marriage will last? So while the excitement and the fun is there your home life can end up being in shambles and at the end of the day is it worth it?

 

As I end this, I have to believe that maybe I am in the minority to believe if anything else it is always easier for a woman to “attract” a partner willing to co-exist knowing their situation is open. Men by nature as glad they don;t have to deal with the extra emotional situation from a female he can just do the fun stuff and go home to maybe his own situation ir the next girl he has  the same situation. On the flip side a man is less able to get a woman to openly accept being his side piece unless she is already in the scene or curious and how many of them are openly going to admit it? In my reading and conversation more than 8 of 10 times when a woman decided she wanted to be open the dude was left dateless and alone. The truth of the matter is at the end of the day a woman doesn’t want to be another woman 2nd and that’s truth. To give better illustration woman  are the receiver and when they receive a man they get emotional and are going to want more time, more energy, more romance, and more of the love/relationship aspect and a man who has wife at home to deal with can’t give it all to her so  it fails. IF he is giving her all the attention and neglecting his wife then again whats the point of being open just divorce, love each other as friends, and move on.

 

 

Long live checking up with your mate, do the test and chase happiness.