Posts Tagged ‘relationship’

I love women and I feel they should have equal rights for sure, at the same time I think this mess about men and woman being the same needs to be dropped. A friend of mine Chi Chi said it best “women are meant to be help mates.” Now  some of you silly people will argue it sounds like servitude, blah blah blah. I don’t believe that’s what I means, i believes i means that as a man is here to balance a woman, so should she balance him. I thin where people get lost is that they can’t balance both sides of the coin being independent and being a part of a team. With that said women don’t want equality in everything but consequences and punishment. To get a woman charged on certain crimes, she literally has to be caught in the act, with a video tape, blood, a signed confession, and a history and still she could go on the stand a cry and say she was beaten or batter with no evidence to support that and get less time then a man  who was held captive for 20 years and killed his captor. Our courts and police don;t believe a man can be abused or raped, courts don;t believe a man can be beaten or be a victim of any kind by a woman. Men have been convicted and in jail for rape on little to no evidence, think it never happens? You got 20 mins?

 

She is being accused of they convicted him on zero evidence AGAINST HIM. she is gonna get maybe a year he was on the hook for 20 and served 4 years. A lot of women think this is okay, I don’t believe its okay, not only for him but the thousands of women who have a hard time being believed for their real rapes.Her lawyer ask for mercy and understanding. WHY? dudes name been dragged through the mud and will forever be linked with rape, her friends sat in court knowing some of the evidence was a lie and still was okay with it. She gets n the sand, tells her story, cries acts like she didn’t know what to do and she gets less time. Let me tell you something a court case doesn’t take a day, just to get to trail it may take a year, gathering evidence, interviews etc. there is time to change your mind and story. A man can’t cry on the stand and get sympathy. In the end, i think we are different and we needs to spend a lot more time appreciating, celebrating our differences and staying in our lanes as needed.

Simp???????

Posted: June 2, 2016 in Love, Relationship
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I am confused on a topic and I want all you people to help me out about what it is that woman want? So for those that don;t know what the word means, simp – a silly or foolish person.

I have seen women call men that for going the distance for love or for someone they care about, while at the same time complaining that men don’t do that at all. I don’t understand… I doubt I ever will. I look on the instagrams and twitters of the world and see women complain about how bad men are, don’t take care of their kids, etc etc.. So he is a simp and thirst for trying and a quitter or a villain for not trying? SMH this generation my god

 I want to start his post to say I LOVE WOMAN I mean I really love everything about woman, their strength, wisdom, nurturing nature, power, etc. Alot of time us guys don;t appreciate or show our appreciation as much as we should I will stand with that.

Now with that out the way some of the logic, decisions, and justification for them  leaves a lot to be desired. In fact some of the movements are terroristic in nature. Here is the definition of  it A terroristic threat is when a person threatens to commit any crime of violence against another person with the intent to terrorize. Because this is a speech based crime, it can often be difficult to determine if a person’s actions constitute a criminal offense. Now I don’t believe the intent is to be that way, I believe ladies are sharing their feelings abut situations and  it gets continuous and out of hand.  I came to this point when  was having a couple of conversations earlier and I listened to two woman justify emasculating men and then cheating on him and getting mad when he either forced them to stand tall in the mess in one case of cheated himself in the other case.

Let me tell you a secret maybe no other men will mention but ladies run the world!!! Once a man lets you into his heart you can pretty much convince him to do anything. Thats love!!

Men give women their emotional engine and expect them to protect it as fiercely as they do their own. Telling him he isn’t man enough, your ex did etc better, he could be better if… IS EMASCULATING!! You think not? Well answer me this how is telling him what he isn’t, what you ex is and ho he would have done it helping the situation? Now imagine back when you were a little lady and the cute boy you were making dough eyes at picked you friend with more chest, butt, and personality. How would you feel? OR if now in your relationship he responding to something you did or try to do with m ex would have gotten it right, or she did it better, etc. Get my point?

So back to the convo these ladies recognized they emasculated their men, then blamed him for being emasculated and decided it was better to go “feel good” for two hours and come back ready to deal with what she did then just deal with it. Thats insane to me… They had 100 reasons why it made sense. If a man presented that same case he would be a savage and wouldn’t know how to treat woman. Oh he would be an animal. Not them, not the woman she had a right to feel good. To me that feels like a reward for being an ASS and disrespectful of yourself and your relationship. It also appears to me she quit, she tears him down then quits and she seems a future bu muddied his present as well as hers and doesn’t ant to face it. I could be wrong and I could be missing something or not seeing something and if I am I stand it fully. But from their conversation I would think they want a strong man and a man who will and can do whatever for them but maybe they had been hurt. One lady said she wanted to share how she felt t him but couldn’t. HELLO there are ways to share a concern without being hurtful or example;

Money convo

her: babe, i am concerned we aren’t bringing in enough money to get to our financial goals. I know I said I would contribute half but i really feel like you should be giving more because reason 1, reason 2, reason 3. Do you think its possible?

Sex Convo

Her: Hey babe I need t have a conversation with you, Im embarrassed and its pretty difficult for me to have.  I am not being full filled as much as I would like in the bedroom and this is what i think is happening. Are you open and willing to try a few things? What can we come up with together to help? Do u have any ideas?

Other female convo

Her: Hey babe I see all these woman coming on to you and leaving messages under your pictures some of them are pretty graphic and I find it disrespectful to us and our relationship…….You get the idea

Now many women will say they have tried, but what about your tone? Here is where these ladies got crazy thinking i was asking them to be a punk.. When in reality I as asking them to be strong enough to control and constrain themselves. I have never liked being yelled at, i typically tuned most people out when they start to yell. I just felt I was a rational enough human being that I didn’t need to be yelled at by another person. Talk to me civilized or I will tune you out. My mother didn’t yell at me I am not going to have another grown person yell at me. Yelling makes people feel instantly at defense and like they are being attacked no talked with or to and in a relationship thats whats needed.

Consider these and they may help your relationship.

This posts I will admit was inspired by the social media craze of the wee the #wastinghistime2k16. There was so much laughter and it was so much of a game until the #wastinghertime2k16 one peeked out. When I talked to a few friends they told me it came from the idea that men could  do hat they wanted to do and leave a female high and dry and lead on. I understand but the problem is this society is so social media driven that this little game of hashtags will have them simple chicks thinking you can do this.

Let me start off by saying cheating is wrong, leading someone on is wrong, and being less than authentic and 100% in is wrong. This social media society has everyone feeling like they need to be wanted and need t be a celebrity and lauded by everyone. So this blog is about the people who don’t have that need the pretty regular guys. No guy just wakes up and checks out and cheats on his wife. From many of my friends and in conversation they tel me that the reason they considered cheating or did it started with communication and he lack of it. Communication was so important to those men, they felt like they were not being heard, understood or considered. They needed someone to talk to, to be emotional with, and to express their worries and their wives were not interested and often told them to suck it up. So after a while they all sough out just conversation and communication somewhere else and thats it. Through the ease of talking and lack of being able to talk to their partner a bond grew, then attraction started as they now sough to escape from where they were and then it happened.

 

All of them said they were wrong and felt bad but felt good at the time. They told me all they were seeking was to be heard and understood maybe a small stroke to the ego. Now some who are reading this may think I am blaming and I am not I am sharing their experience. The wives expressed they were angry because of something else not done and it caused them to be closed off and not care about his emotions. So both people end up being at fault he did something to start the process and she didn’t communicate how bad it hurt. It started in one area communication. So don;t waste anyones time, go be happy the first time out.

Long live checking up with your mate, do the test and chase happiness.

 

 

Marry someone

Posted: April 2, 2014 in Married
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Learning about Love

Posted: February 18, 2014 in I love you, Love
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There comes a time in a man’s life when he realizes he is dedicating too much time to the love of his life. He has put her and her needs ahead of his own. While I don’t believe it is a mistake by any means, I do believe it is an imbalance especially if she is unwilling to do the same for him. I feel the same if the inverse is true (so ladies chill). I have had an experience recently that shed light on this, and made me see that the subject is worth thinking on. It is not worth it to invest so much of yourself and so much time into another person if they can’t be bothered to do the same for you in return. I know I am not doing it to get things back in return, but I am hoping that as we are sharing similar feelings something like the same can be returned. As we all know the social norm is that a relationship is 50/50 but the truth is usually it is more like 60/40 or 80/20. This could be as simple as the man not doing anything for her but she does everything for him. Her dedicating her life to him and getting nothing in return and that is a crappy balance in my humble opinion.

Hey guys just because you put food on the table that does not equal a healthy balance in the relationship department. Sometimes we have to go the extra mile; it is a need for balance for a relationship to survive. I guess this is why so many people go for open relationships because they have a need to have more from other people since their significant other can’t/won’t deliver. The other possibility is there is a cup that really doesn’t have a bottom so there is no way their significant other can fill it or any other person really so they keep tossing people and things in the hole. That’s the interesting thing, we dedicate so much of ourselves to a person we love and it turns out to be a dam joke. NO love isn’t a joke but the dance we have with it and around it is so comical. Love is the exchange of a connection spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical this connection is strengthened and weakened by the bonds of people who really care for one another. I was taught by a very wise man in my life when I was young that “Love means to share with, to care for, and protect” when you care for someone you are willing to do whatever you can for them, you are willing to protect them, and willing to share with them. Growing up you don’t really understand what love is and how it affects you. I remember there is this movie call The Brothers which stars Morris Chestnut, D.L. Hughley, Bill Bellamy, and Shemar Moore, and there is this scene where Morris’s girlfriend shares a belief that if a man is in love with you he will share his last with you. She asks him if he will eat the last chicken wing and he does, later in the movie she said “there isn’t any more cake,” and he turns and offers his last piece and she knew. Love isn’t what he say and how we say it, it is not just what we make it but also how we make it, how we express it and how we show it to those we claim to love and that are important to us by our own definition.

When we speak about our love some of us say love so freely we don’t even understand that while love is free the weight attached to it isn’t, the power we are giving to that person isn’t, and there are so many people out there looking to take advantage of that. So I leave you with the thought, are you in love and do you know what it really is?