I don’t have a problem with what i understand the foundation of the metoo movement to be; my understanding of the foundation is that women were being mistreated by men using sex as a chip to advance women and their career. The example is jane works as an associate accountant and feels she is in line for the promotion. She goes to the manager or boss and stakes her claim, The manager replies the only way he doing it is if she sleeps with him. Thats what I understand metoo to mean at its foundation and that is WRONG!!!
The problem I had was then other people who were abused or complicit with abuse took the flag and now any and everything was metoo. Then the arrogance of these people with the loudest voice to say “nah this is only women, stop getting into our conversation”. How do you monopolize the abuse landscape like it only happens to you?
So these same men who were victims, when and started a #himtoo and was told to go sit in the corner and shut up and stop trying to take the shine away. Mind you these are the same people who say believe all victims, ALWAYS. These are the same people who say you can’t ask questions and you can’t look to understand on a deeper level, you have to just give sympathy and splash hate on everyone.
Lets be clear everyone who has been abused deserved sympathy and understanding. inside of that there are many women who only see abuse as something that can happen to women only. We have never seen a woman get REAL and SIGNIFICANT time. The only way she get time is if she kills the man historically. Do the research.
There are no resources legit available for men who are being abused. In most cases they are forced to vacate their home and often the emotional abuse, especially if there are kids is never touched on. Any man who has been in an argument with a women has heard the “If you leave I will hurt myself….” or the woman who was “emotional” and put her hands on a man because she was emotional. Abuse or assault is not okay because you are emotional…KEEP YOUR DAM HANDS TO YOURSELF.
It is not okay because you are a woman and he is a man. Use your words, you are responsible for yourself, your mouth, and your hands. As many times as women have been up in my face and finger pointed against me head and yelling on screaming in my ear, spitting ion my face, throwing thing in my direction. I had never wanted to put my hands on her, I wanted to get out of there because I hate being yelled at, my mom never yelled at me. Again go take a walk and release that energy. The response we get is “you know how I am” I am sorry but you are responsible for yourself and “thats how I am” is not an acceptable response when there are so many resources for woman to get help and to work through their emotions and learn how to deal with their emotional work. Deal with your yourself and your emotional trauma like men are expected to…. NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO ABUSE ANYONE. Go do the work everyone please.